Roger Wolsey

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Soul 2 Soul



Welcome!  You have found a kindred spirit, a spiritual friend, a brother in life, and a Soul Friend and Coach in Life. I’m a certified Spiritual Director through the Spiritual Direction Program of Benet Hill Monastery. I’m an ordained pastor in the United Methodist Church and a prominent advocate for progressive Christianity. I earned a Masters of Divinity degree from the Iliff School of Theology. I am the author “Kissing Fish: christianity for people who don’t like christianity."

I have been a speaker at The Wild Goose Festival (3 times), The Embrace Festival, The Lion and The Lamb Festival, and Christianity 21. I’ve blogged for Elephant Journal, Huffington Post, and now primarily blog for Patheos as “The Holy Kiss.” I’m the administrator of the Kissing Fish Facebook fan-page. I am also a contributing writer for the John Shelby Spong weekly newsletter “Progressing Spirit,” and serve on the Board of Directors of 

I am also an experienced wedding officiant (including premarital counseling), and help grieving families celebrate and remember their deceased loved ones through meaningful, personalized funerals and memorials.

Those things are nifty, but I’m just a human - a fellow human being who’s learned many things the hard way in life. I turned 50 last year and experienced a text-book midlife crisis as part of that transition - as my “Chiron returned.” I don’t pretend to be fully whole, sanctified, perfect, or enlightened. I’m very much a work in progress. As I continue to evolve through life, I identify as a Christian mystic -or as a mystic who happens to be Christian. I hold an inclusive, inter-faith perspective and don’t think that any one religion has a monopoly on Spirit, Truth, Love, Grace, or God.

I embrace all human beings as fellow Children of God who are fully loved by the Creator just as they are. I’m a straight, white, cis, male who is aware of my privilege and I am resolved to use this privilege to help empower everyone - including those who are oppressed or marginalized by our current social structures. My work with men seeks to to help other men share this resolve.

I'm originally from Minnesota, spent the last 20 years in Boulder, Colorado, and currently reside in Iowa City, IA. I have a twin sister and I’m the father of wonderful 19 year old son. I’m an arts lover, a theater-goer, live music lover, blues dancer, yogi, trail runner, motorcyclist, trumpeter, and photographer.* Centering prayer, spending time sitting at my personal altar, Lectio Divina, reading and writing poetry, and being out in Nature with contemplative presence are my primary spiritual practices. I lead men’s groups, have done retreats through the Men’s Leadership Alliance, and I have training in shadow work, dream work, authentic relating, and circling; as well as experience with tarot, the Enneagram, plant medicine, and various shamanic healing modalities. I value and seek to foster wholeness - in Body. Mind. Soul. My work can be summed up as helping people to 

        Know Yourself. Love Yourself. Love Others & The World.

Let's work together Soul 2 Soul.

- Roger

* the photographs on this website are mine, either taken by me, or the shots with me in them were set up by me

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